Could Haves/Should Haves Day

Today, the third Saturday in July, is Toss Away the Could Haves/Should Haves Day. It means don’t go through life with regrets. Dr. Martha J. Ross-Rodgers, author and motivational speaker, created this day to help people let go of the past and live in the present. It begins with getting a piece of paper and writing down your “could haves” and your “should haves” in separate columns. Next, throw out the paper and make a resolution.

“From this day forward, I choose not to live in the past. The past is history that I cannot change. I can do something about the present; I choose to live in the present.”

Living in the past can do more harm than good. I’ve battled depression and my thoughts often filtered back to using past events as an excuse to give up or not even try. Letting go of those things is liberating. There are still things I regret and wish I could have done differently, but I don’t dwell on them or let them affect my judgement. Life can be an exciting adventure if you allow yourself to enjoy it. But you must live in the present. I’ll end today’s post with a quote from Lao Tzu.

“If you are depressed you are living in the past. If you are anxious you are living in the future. If you are at peace you are living in the present.”

~ Lao Tzu

Wacky Wednesday: July 15

We have a fun Wacky Wednesday this week’s with lots of obscure wacky holidays. First, we have our usual wacky words. Our first word is a mouthful, Triskaidekaphobia. It’s pronounced ‘TRIS-kye-DEK-a-FOH-bee-a.’  It’s the fear and avoidance of the number 13. Friday the 13th and the Apollo 13 mission are two examples of the unlucky 13. Our next word is an adjective and I can’t say I’ve heard it used here in the United States. Rawky meaning of weather or atmosphere: cold, damp, chilly, dull, foggy. Though I’ve never heard it, I’m certain there are many places on the East coast with rawky weather.

The holidays for today are straight forward. Today is National Give Something Away DayNational I Love Horses DayNational Tapioca Pudding DayNational Pet Fire Safety Day, and National Gummi Worm Day. If you like horses, gummi worms, or tapioca pudding, I’m sure you know how to celebrate. For Give Something Away Day, you can clean out your closet or garage and donate what you find. You could buy a friend a meal or a drink. It’s pretty simple. Pet Fire Safety Day reminds us to consider our pets when planning fire safety. While I value many things in my home, the first thing I’m grabbing is my cat, Callie, and running out the door. Even if I’m still in my pajamas. 

Tuesday Poetry: Busy Bodies Buzzing

The same old thought patterns
I can’t break away
Feelings of despair
Sadness – 
Everyone’s too busy
While I’m stuck in this
Lonely world with nothing
Nothing but words
It would be easier if
People heard or read my words
No one’s listening – 
They can’t hear anything except
Their own brain noise
All I hear is noise
Words help make things quiet
Words don’t embrace you
The way others can but
Everyone’s too busy – 
And I wrap myself with words

From the poetry collection Cats, Coffee, Catharsis.