Poetry Monday: Choosing to be Alone

I pursue time alone
Mostly because there are
Few people I want to be around
None of them make me feel comfortable

I seek out connections
With other people, searching
I want someone to share life with
Positive influences are hard to find

Even family can be tiresome
Or they fail to notice my discomfort
Perhaps they don’t care
Or are too self-absorbed

Meeting people in public
Is equally disappointing
I don’t know them well enough
Or I genuinely don’t like them

There are few I actually like
And I don’t see them often enough
Life feels easier around them
Why aren’t more people like that

It’s difficult finding balance
Removing certain people from your life
While trying to bring more people in
Nothing goes as planned

I pursue time alone
Because I can’t be with those people
The ones who lift me up
Who make me feel important

But when I’m alone
I don’t feel important
I feel pain and sorrow
I feel like death

From the poetry collection Cats, Coffee, Catharsis.

Coffee and Contemplation: Self-Improvement Month

September is Self-Improvement Month. There are all kinds of ways for one to improve themselves. It depends on what kind of person they want to be and what they have to do to get there. It could be something as simple as learning to recipes for dinner or saving money for a new car. I want to share some of the things I’ve done to improve myself. Most of these things I’ve been doing for almost a year. I recommend using Self-Improvement Month as a starting point for short-term and long-term goals. Short-term goals being less than a year and long-term taking a year or longer.

I made a list for myself and am happy to say I crossed off all my short-term goals and even a couple long-term. These were simple things like saving money and getting some new clothes. There were many other things that weren’t on my goals list. For example, I had money saved to get some dental work I’ve needed. I had to get a root canal and a crown. I’ve been reading more books and writing a lot more. I’ve even planned a little road trip for my birthday weekend. So what are you doing to improve yourself? 

National Day of Encouragement

Sometimes a few kind, uplifting words from someone make a difficult situation better. Sometimes encouragement comes from friends or family. Other times it might come from a total stranger. I’m a fan of the phrase “Be kind whenever possible. It’s always possible.” Encouraging others is another form of kindness. Mayor Belinda LaForce of Searcy, Arkansas proclaimed the first Day of Encouragement on August 22, 2007. The project began as the brainchild from the Encouragement Foundation at Harding University in Searcy. A month later, Governor Mike Beebe, proclaimed September 12, 2007 the “State Day of Encouragement for Arkansas. Later President George W. Bush made September 12th the National Day of Encouragement.

How does one participate in this national holiday? Encourage others. Reassure, inspire, or tell someone how important they are to you. Think about someone other than yourself and say a few kind words to them. If someone feels like giving up, tell them to keep trying. Or at least listen to them vent their frustrations. Sometimes having someone listen is enough to encourage someone to keep fighting. At some point in our lives, we all need encouragement. We all need a little push to see the positive and keep going when all hope is lost. If you’re struggling, things will get better. Even if it doesn’t look like they will.