Coffee and Contemplation: Father’s Day and National Arizona Day

I’m a cat dad. I’ve been taking care of my cat Callie for over two years. I rescued her from the shelter, and we had an immediate bond. She yells at me if I’ve been away from home too long. And she yells if she feels there isn’t enough food in her dish or if her water dish looks contaminated. I have to refill it three times a day or she won’t drink it. She likes to rest her front paws on my shoulder as I hold her rear paws in my arms. She purrs and rubs her face on mine.

I’ve never observed Father’s Day on the receiving end. I don’t expect to get any cards or gifts. I’m sure some would say it doesn’t count unless you have a human child. Humans are overrated. Regardless, I’m proud to call myself a cat dad. I love my little fur baby. Sometimes I feel she’s my only friend. Lockdown and quarantine would have been lonely without her. I find myself gravitating towards this as I don’t have a good relationship with my own father. Many people have lost their father and this day is difficult for them.

She’s not angry. That’s just her face.

With the world diving headfirst into chaos, the issues I have with my father seem trivial. I feel ready to let go of the past and move on. But I’m not ready to discuss this with my father. Maybe I will one day. It doesn’t feel necessary. For now, I’ll enjoy being a cat dad. And anyone who has a strained relationship with their father, or if you’ve lost your father, I hope this day isn’t too difficult for you. To all the cat dads, people dads, dog dads, lizard dads, dads of any creatures, and moms who are both the mom and dad, Happy Father’s Day.

Today is also National Arizona Day. I live in Tucson, AZ that’s why I’m mentioning it. In 2017, National Day Calendar began celebrating each state in the order they entered the Union starting the week of Independence Day and ending with Hawaii. Arizona became a state on Valentine’s Day in 1912. With the addition of Arizona, the 48 states in the continental US were officially joined together. We’ve got wildfires, a pandemic, and riots/protests. Also, it’s over one hundred degrees and it’ll only get hotter through August. And I don’t plan on moving.

Coffee & Contemplation: Mother’s Day

This Mother’s Day, I want to give everyone something to contemplate when you all celebrate your mothers. Not everyone observes Mother’s Day. Other’s feel pain when they see everyone out and about with their mom. Some may take mom out to dinner or lunch. Or they’ll take mom shopping. Keep in mind some mothers are no longer with their families. Some have passed away and this is a difficult time for the families. Other people may have never had good relationships with their mothers. They don’t celebrate because they never felt they had a mother.

Some mothers are selfish and narcissistic. They take from their children instead of giving them love. I do not intend to push out negativity. I want everyone to understand that Mother’s Day is negative for some people. I only ask they everyone bare this in mind when running around with mom. Some never grew up with a mom. Some had a bad mother. Some were fortunate enough to have a loving mother. There’s another thing I hope people will recognize. Cat moms and dog moms and any woman who takes care of a pet, should get some praise on the day of mothers.

So, celebrate all the moms in your life. Even the unconventional ones. And show respect to those who wish not to observe the festivities. And make sure those furry friends get a card for their mom. They may need help. Most cats and dogs I’ve met don’t have jobs or money. Freeloaders. 

Caturday Poetry: Under the Cat's Eye Moon

The heart within my heart (Trapped within my
thoughts) Beats for you (Fantasies unfulfilled)
Even if yours does not (Obstacles
plentiful) Under the cat’s eye moon (As
many as stars above) I dream of
what was not (Nightmares relived daily) A
reverie of peace

(Healing takes time) Lighting up my eyes (Time
feels never ending) I can’t stop the 
smile you generate (The past directs
the present) A world without you
unimagined (And I’ve nowhere to run)
I destroy the thought before it comes (Stuck
in the circular dreamscape)

This beating heart of mine (Love is a 
fickle thing) Often falls for what can’t be
had (Fantasies unfulfilled)

From the poetry collection Cats, Coffee, Catharsis.